In today’s digital age, it has become increasingly common for parents who have been through the family court system to turn to social media to share their stories. For some, it’s a way of processing trauma, for others a means of advocating for reform, and for many, a cry to be seen and heard in… Continue reading “When Telling the Truth Feels Like a Crime: Parenting, Privacy, and the Fight to Be Heard”
Category: Inside the System: What They Don’t Tell You
System Failures looks at how broken systems impact real lives — beyond reports, beyond statistics, into the human cost of being unheard.
In vs. Out: The Brutal Truth About Kids in Care
Every single week, around 600 children in the UK are taken from their homes and placed into care. And in that same week? Only about 140 make it back. That means for every child who makes it home, four more are pulled away. Four more bags packed in a hurry. Four more goodbyes whispered through… Continue reading In vs. Out: The Brutal Truth About Kids in Care
Behind Closed Doors: The Silence That Speaks Louder
When people speak about social services, the narrative is rarely simple. It swings between outrage and relief, trauma and transformation. For some families, intervention marks the beginning of healing. For others, it’s the start of a long and painful journey. What’s often overlooked, though, is that even in the rare instances where support leads to… Continue reading Behind Closed Doors: The Silence That Speaks Louder
The Postcode Lottery of Child Protection: How Cornwall Council Is Failing Families
My Story My children have been placed in foster homes by Cornwall Council. Two of them now need to be moved — but there are no suitable placements available in Cornwall, especially for one child who has special educational needs (SEN), and another who is almost 16 years old. They could be sent anywhere in… Continue reading The Postcode Lottery of Child Protection: How Cornwall Council Is Failing Families
Family Court vs. Criminal Court: When Your Life Ends Up in Front of a Judge
Let’s be honest — if you’re googling the difference between Family Court and Criminal Court, chances are life is already heavy. You might be trying to protect your child. You might be dealing with someone who's hurt you. Maybe you’ve got court papers in your hand and a million questions in your head. You shouldn’t… Continue reading Family Court vs. Criminal Court: When Your Life Ends Up in Front of a Judge
The Family Court Gag: Why Silence Isn’t a Choice—It’s a Sentence
“Why don’t you just speak up?” We hear it all the time. From friends. From strangers. From people who think silence equals guilt. But here’s the truth: Speaking up in family court can destroy you.Not metaphorically—literally. If we talk about our own cases publicly, we risk being dragged back into court for contempt, slapped with… Continue reading The Family Court Gag: Why Silence Isn’t a Choice—It’s a Sentence
When a Child Is Taken, a Whole Family Breaks
When social services take a child from their parents,they aren’t just removing one person from one home.They are ripping a thread from an entire tapestry.A living, breathing, tangled web of love, connection, and history. It is not just a child taken.It is their grandmother’s lullabies, their sibling’s late-night whispers, their uncle’s jokes, their cousin’s hugs.It… Continue reading When a Child Is Taken, a Whole Family Breaks
When Speaking Up Becomes a Weapon
They tell you to speak.To reach out.To be brave and ask for help.They urge you to be honest, to share your struggles, to show them you're trying. But what they don’t say—what they never warn you about—is what happens next. Because the moment you speak, your words stop belonging to you.They become evidence.Twisted.Framed.Used. That cry… Continue reading When Speaking Up Becomes a Weapon
Collateral Damage
They say family court is about justice.But justice doesn’t feel like this. It doesn’t feel like being silenced while strangers dissect your life behind closed doors.It doesn’t feel like begging to be heard and being met with paperwork and procedure. Family court is about power.Theirs, not yours.It's about profit—paid experts, legal fees, private reports, all… Continue reading Collateral Damage
“Families Dismantled, Not Defended: The Dark Side of Child Protection”
When social services operate on assumptions rather than concrete evidence, they risk dismantling the very families they're meant to protect. Families can be torn apart not due to substantiated facts, but because of speculative concerns, leaving lasting trauma in place of once-present love. The Scope of Family Separation in the UK In England, approximately one… Continue reading “Families Dismantled, Not Defended: The Dark Side of Child Protection”
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