Before You Read My StoryThis is not a story that can be told in one post.This is the beginning of a series speaking the truths they tried to bury — about forced adoption, its silent victims, and the grief that refuses to stay hidden. Forced adoption isn’t just something from history books.It’s not a thing… Continue reading Forced Adoption: The Hidden Truth Behind a Silent Grief
2. Degrees Don’t Equal Experience: A Parent’s Perspective
Part Two: Parenting Under Surveillance From the outside, parenting is supposed to be a natural thing — built on love, instincts, trial and error. But when you're parenting under the gaze of the system, it doesn't feel natural at all. It feels like performance. Every word you say, every move you make, even how your… Continue reading 2. Degrees Don’t Equal Experience: A Parent’s Perspective
Visual Reflections
Visual Reflections — A New Page on the Site There are some things words can’t fully hold.Moments, emotions, memories — too heavy, too quiet, or too old to name out loud. For a long time, I used imagery to say what I couldn’t speak.On TikTok, I shared quote-based images — small fragments of truth and… Continue reading Visual Reflections
We Were Asking for Help — Not to Be Blamed
For years, we screamed out for help. We begged for support for our son — a little boy with needs that we couldn’t meet on our own. We talked to professionals, asked questions, knocked on every door. But no one really listened. Instead, we watched his world unravel right in front of us. He was… Continue reading We Were Asking for Help — Not to Be Blamed
1. Degrees Don’t Equal Experience: A Parent’s Perspective
Part One: The Degree vs. The Experience Just because someone holds a degree, doesn’t mean they hold the experience. This thought has been sitting with me for a long time, especially as I navigate the system that has had such a deep impact on my family — the social care system. I want to be… Continue reading 1. Degrees Don’t Equal Experience: A Parent’s Perspective
Standing in the Storm – Finding Strength Through Faith
There hasn’t been a time in my life when I haven’t been tangled up with social services or the family courts. It’s like a shadow that never leaves—always there, always watching, always controlling. Just when you think you’ve escaped, they find another way to pull you back in.I’ve seen the darkest corners of myself during… Continue reading Standing in the Storm – Finding Strength Through Faith
Behind Closed Doors: The Silence That Speaks Louder
When people speak about social services, the narrative is rarely simple. It swings between outrage and relief, trauma and transformation. For some families, intervention marks the beginning of healing. For others, it’s the start of a long and painful journey. What’s often overlooked, though, is that even in the rare instances where support leads to… Continue reading Behind Closed Doors: The Silence That Speaks Louder
When Love Isn’t Enough (Or So They Say)
In November 2023, our world shifted. One of our children came home—just 24 hours' notice, no preparation, no gentle transition. Just… “she’s coming back.” We didn’t question it. We embraced it. We opened our arms, our home, and our hearts, knowing full well the path ahead wouldn’t be easy. She was 14. So much had… Continue reading When Love Isn’t Enough (Or So They Say)
The Postcode Lottery of Child Protection: How Cornwall Council Is Failing Families
My Story My children have been placed in foster homes by Cornwall Council. Two of them now need to be moved — but there are no suitable placements available in Cornwall, especially for one child who has special educational needs (SEN), and another who is almost 16 years old. They could be sent anywhere in… Continue reading The Postcode Lottery of Child Protection: How Cornwall Council Is Failing Families
They Say It’s My Fault My Mind Is Broken
They say it’s my fault.That my mind is broken because I didn’t seek help.But how do you ask for help when you were taught your voice didn’t matter? As a child, I learned quickly that silence was safer. My pain was invisible to the people who were supposed to protect me. When I cried, they… Continue reading They Say It’s My Fault My Mind Is Broken
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